“He is 3.5 years old. Everything starts out fine and suddenly everything goes south. He either starts dumping everything everywhere or he starts getting hyper. I ask him why or what happened but that doesn’t help. I am trying so hard to figure out why so I can help.”
What I have learned is we, especially moms, are built to search for the WHY. We think the WHY will give us the information we need to stop the mistaken behavior.
We need the WHY to begin to formulate a game plan.
What I have found is the WHY can be extremely elusive. Most times children themselves don’t know what the WHY is or they simply have no words to describe it.
The most powerful and easier search begins with WHEN.
When is this happening?
Is it daily?
Is it in the morning?
Is it when he is with another child?
When does it start?
When does it get more intense?
When do I start expecting it to begin?
When helps you identify the pattern with far more details.
The details are what you need to start creating a game plan.
Trust me, the WHY will eventually reveal itself.
So if you have a kid who is tricky beyond words and you are feeling stumped. Start tracking the WHEN.
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